Friday, December 26, 2025

Christmas for Kate

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For many years now I've made an Xmas playlist and CD (it used to be a C90) for Kate — truth be told, it's as much for me. The idea is to remember the year that was, the places and events we've been to, and the memories we ought to squirrel away.

Kate still has a CD player in her car and we still play CD's in the house but, more often these days, we play music from iTunes over Bluetooth (in the car or to a sound bar in the house). These playlists are available off my YouTube channel and on my iTunes page. If you click on the image at left you'll get to the YouTube version. Not everyone has iTunes.

This year we did manage to travel to Austin for our winter escape and again there are quite a few tunes from that trip. We crossed into the US the day the Philanderer and Thief (aka Agent Kraznov) was crowned King DJT and every day since has been one WTF moment after another. So, some of the music on this playlist, is dominated by protest songs; I really wish there were more. Somehow that man has to be stopped!

There were some trips to other places as as well: we were to England, Germany and Scotland in May/June; Victoria, BC, in July; music in Toronto; a visit to Winnipeg; and a trip to Mexico. But only some of them have a music reference.

Again, as in recent years, several of our heros are no more — Todd Snider and Raul Malo (the voice of the Mavericks) are in the list; Joe Ely, I cannot say enough about how great he was, passed after the list was created. Anyways, as What Wave Dave would say, enough jabbering, here's the list.

  1. If The Loneliness Don't Kill Me, Whitehorse. We saw this Canadian duo (Luke Doucet and his wife Melissa McClelland) with Gord and Leslie a few years ago (2022 on Prince Edward County). This song from 2022 is pretty classic country. It's a hard drinking story: "If the loneliness don't kill me, then the good times surely will".
  2. Born in San Antone, Garret T. Capps. We saw GTC at the Red Bird Listening Room in New Braunfels. We had seen him years before in Austin opening for Sarah Shook (2019). There's a very funny song he does, "Remember the Alamo Dome", which hasn't been published (as yet). He's a character and loves San Antone.
  3. Pinocchio in Vegas, James McMurtry. When in Austin we like to see James play solo at the Continental Club Gallery (2025 my birthday). A funny song from his most recent album. We also so him on tour with a full band at the Horseshoe Tavern in Toronto (September at the Horseshoe)
  4. Just A Step, The Resentments. The Resentments have a long standing residency at the Saxon Pub in Austin. John Chipman, the drummer, also plays with the Purgatory Players on Sunday mornings at the El Mercado — this is John's song. It's from a long out of print CD: Switcheroo (2008); I managed to find a copy on EBay.
  5. Already Gone, Slaid Cleaves. If anything, this is just a song about growing up and aging. It has a nice tune with well crafted lyrics. John Chipman is on drums, Scrappy Jud Newcomb on guitar — another gang of Austin regulars and the Purgatory Players. 
  6. Sarah Gordon, Grievous Angels. From One Job Town (2008). We were in Glasgow this year for Kate's KBS 2025 conference and worked on this song with our friend Sam but didn't get a chance to sing it.
  7. I Wish I Was In Glasgow, Billy Connolly. Another song for Glasgow that we rehearsed. We were introduced to a version of this song by Jim McGinley of London, Ontario and have it on CD. The McGinley version is polished. We're surprised how our Glasgow friends don't know this song!
  8. Another War, Carsie Blanton. With the genocide in Gaza, the Russian invasion of Ukraine since 2014, and the sabre rattling by Don the Mucillini explains the droll lyric: "I can't wait to see what we're fight for". This has only been published as a Facebook Short (it's too good and needs to be published in more places).
  9. War Isn't Murder, Jesse Welles. This artist has been much on my mind. He's been lauded as the "New Dylan" and there definitely are parallels. Again this points to the genocide in Gaza and ends with a pointed remark about "have a nice trip" when visiting after the Trump plan is implemented.
  10. Join ICE, Jesse Welles. The internal war in the US against anyone of color who might be an immigrant w/o proper papers has me in tears. Jesse Welles does a great job of calling out those who would join in and "just follow orders". A continuing day-to-day WTF moment.
  11. Good People (Thank Me), Hayes Carll. Well, in spite of all that, the world is full of nice people who do nice things. I saw Hayes Carll at the Horseshoe this year (September at Horseshoe),
  12. We're Only Human, Hayes Carll. Hey, we're only human. We make mistakes, we hurt the ones we love, but get up, get over it, get on with life and be a nice person.
  13. There Goes My Heart, The Mavericks. Raul Malo (1965-2025) was the voice of the Mavericks. We saw him a couple of times at Austin awards events. Their music is an incredible blend of influences and a lot of fun!
  14. Single Wide Dreamer, Aaron Raitiere. Aaron is a well received Nashville writer. We saw him open for Hayes Carll in September.
  15. Nose On The Grindstone, Tyler Childers. We saw Tyler several years ago at the Cactus Cafe in Austin and have been following him ever since. His music is bluegrass tinged country. From Snipe Hunter (2024).
  16. I Am Joan, Kate Howard. Kate is an Austin regular we've seen many times playing when she can around town. Often as a guest with the Purgatory Players on Sunday mornings at the El Mercado. We see that the El Mercado has changed hands and, for the moment, it's under renovation. Lets hope that the Back Stage reopens and continues to host the events we've loved so much over the years.
  17. It's Christmastime (Let’s Just Survive), Kathleen Edwards. We saw her play at the 04 Center (on Lamar in Austin very near our long stay) this year. A bit of humor to match the Kate Howard tune. Kathleen is Canadian and has been playing for years (since at least the album "Failer", 2003) with a hiatus 2014-2022 to run a coffee house.
  18. Running with You, Rich Brotherton. Rich is one of the Purgatory Players, as well as Ulla (Sunday's at the Saxon). He's a guitar legend, toured with Robert Earl Keen for many yars and a producer of many great albums. He's been recently diagnosed with ALS. The song was written by Sarah Elizabeth Campbell. This video is from a recording of the Monday Night Social Club at the El Mercado. 
  19. Moon Dawg's Tavern, Todd Snider. Todd (1996-2024) was cut from the same crazy cloth as Jerry Jeff. We never saw him perform; apparently he was a great story teller. This song tells the drinking story of a a guy who the lyrics say: "got kicked out of so many bars, so he built one in his own backyard, only been kicked out once so far and his tab is always paid."
That was some of the music of 2025. There's another compilation CD for our 45th Wedding Anniversary. I'm working on writing something to explain the songs there.

Thursday, December 25, 2025

45 Years

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This Christmas I prepared another Xmas for Kate CD (a playlist on Youtube and iTunes). Over the summer we celebrated our 45th Wedding Anniversary (see August Blog). For that occasion we spent some time together working on music that we might sing together, or as a tribute to one another, or just as memories of our time together these last 45 years.

Music has always been a big part of my life, Kate's too, the intersection is a happy merger ... so long as I don't play anything before noon! Thank god for earbuds, head phones and solitary drives.

If you're interested in our anniversary music click on the image at left for the YouTube playlist. Or, if you're really brave check the many playlists on my YouTube channel.

Some of the tunes will be obvious, e.g. 45 Years, by Stan Rogers. Others not so obvious. Most are tunes we selected together, some that I picked as a surprise. In any case, here's the playlist and a bit on why the tunes were selected:

  1. You Got Gold, John Prine. From "The Missing Years" (1991). We saw John at Mariposa around the time of this album. This is a love song set to a jaunty little tune.
  2. In Spite of Ourselves, John Prine. A silly little love song from the 1999 album of the same name. The duet is with Iris Dement. Together, Kate and I butchered this song at the anniversary party.
  3. Dear Abby, John Prine. From "Sweet Revenge" (1973). This song is BK (before Kate) but we both loved the humor of it all. We sang it at our wedding reception — see August 1980.
  4. I'll Be Your San Antone Rose, Jerry Jeff Walker. Again this is BK, but only barely. From "Too Old to Change" (1979). Words and music by Susanna Clark. We both love JJW and started going to Texas because of him. See our 2025 visit to his grave. Will we ever return to Austin?
  5. I Remember Everything, John Prine. The heart breaking last tune by John, a reflection on a long life.
  6. Passing Through London, 1972, Leonard Cohen. We both loved Leonard's music. I recall learning this tune with Kate back in 1980. We sang this on the train returning from Connie's wedding in June of 1980; other passengers were not too happy with us.
  7. One of Us Cannot Be Wrong, Leonard Cohen. From "The Songs of Leonard Cohen" (1967). Definitely BK! Another song I learned with Kate back in the day. "I lit a thin green candle, to make you jealous of me". Kate busked with this on the streets of Ottawa (BR) and managed to raise 60cents.
  8. 45 Years, Stan Rogers. From "Home in Halifax" (1993). A song about a young man imagining being together for 45 years. "I want to see your smiling face 45 years from now". It came true for us, not so for him. We saw Stan several times at the London Home County Folk Festival; there's a big hole in Canadian folk music when he died so young (1949-1983). We sang this, with Danny's help, at our anniversary.
  9. Wilder Than Her, Fred Eaglesmith. From "Drive-in Movie" (1996). I sang this for Kate at our 25th Wedding Anniversary. Our No. 1 son Chris accompanied me on guitar. It got a lot of laughs. I think we might have done it again at this years annivesary.
  10. B-Grade Affair, Audrey Auld. From "Losing Faith" (2003). This is a duet with Fred Eaglesmith. I think we first bumped into Audrey at one of Fred's picnic. It's another funny country song, one that again Kate and rehearsed for the party.
  11. Marilyn and Joe, Kinky Friedman. From "Under the Double Ego" (1983). Another sappy little love song. The theme song for our 20th anniversary. I've been singing this acapella for years. We got to see Kinky a couple of times (1944-2024) and have even had him sing this for us on the Outlaw Country Cruise (2018).
  12. I Couldn't Be Me Without You, Edie Brickell. From "Live Forever: A Tribute to Billy Joe Shaver" (2022). I like this version, learned it, and sang it to Kate at our anniversary. We saw Billy Joe Shaver (1939-2020) only a few times over the years; but he was a really important writer of Americana. See my blog of November 2020 on his passing.
  13. A Rainy Night In Soho, The Pogues. This came out around the time of  "Rum, Sodomy and the Lash" (1985) but I recall it on an EP. The Pogues were a great band. Wild, drunken but such great tunes. This is a great love song tinged with regret. "I've been loving you a long time".
  14. Yes I Guess They Oughta Name A Drink After You, Tyler Childers. From "Broken Hearts & Dirty Windows: Songs Of John Prine, Vol. 2" (2021). Another from the John Prine catalogue. A drunken bar tune, "I get drunk most every night, seems like all we do is fight". 
  15. Bad Girls, Steve Earle & Reckless Kelly. A 2025 single. A bar room lament, "Where have all the bad girls gone?" Kate was a bit of wild one, still is. But you'll find us in bars listening to music in the afternoon. Our drunken ways are over.
  16. That's The Way Love Goes, Hayes Carll & Allison Moorer. From a 2020 Single. Another love song. Classic country, originally by Lefty Frizzell. Hayes and Allison are a couple, she used to be married to Steve Earle.
  17. You Get It All, Hayes Carll. From 2020 album of the same name. Another love song, a devotion to her — "I knew the night we met, you get it all". 
  18. Another Like You, Hayes Carll. From "KMAGO YOYO (& other American Stories" (2011). This is a "Bad Girl" story, very ribald, very funny. No mush here, just drunken lust. "Let's get another round, It's lookin' like we're trouble bound. I have never seen another like you!". And I've never seen another like Kate.
  19. Love Minus Zero/No Limit, Bob Dylan. From "Bringing It All Back Home" (1965). Kate and I are both Dylan fans. Last year there was a movie released, "A Complete Unknown" (2024). Great movie, lovely song. "My love she’s like some raven, At my window with a broken wing"
  20. Song For The Life (Live), Jerry Jeff Walker. From "A Man Must Carry On: Vol One" (1977). Another BK, this was written by Rodney Crowell and his version closes with "There's a song for the friend I have found, you know she keeps my feet on the ground." She may be wilder than me, but she keeps my feet on the ground.
Looking this over I have to say that the above is the briefest of snapshots of our musical history. We are obviously big on Folk, Country and especially Americana. There are a ton of songs within those and other genres that we might have included. But again, for our history, check this blog and the many playlists on my YouTube channel.



Tuesday, December 16, 2025

Joe Ely

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Monday, it's all over Facebook, Joe Ely has passed away -- February 9, 1947 - December 15, 2025. 

From this blog April 12, 2013, many years ago, on seeing The Flatlanders at the Horseshoe Tavern in Toronto I wrote ...

"The photo is Joe Ely who is probably the more famous of the trio -- certainly the most prolific with an extensive catalogue of music to explore. While Butch Hancock is perhaps the most prolific writer of the three (they all write) and Jimmie Dale Gilmore has the signature voice I've come to appreciate even more the music that Joe Ely writes and performs. He sang a song I had not heard before, "Not That Much Has Changed" from his last album "Satisfied at Last" (2011), that brought me to tears. It's a sentimental story of returning to your home town where not that much has changed -- "the grass is a little drier, the trees are a little higher.... the drug store is still for sale, they still sell cotton by the bale." A simple story, with well worn lines but moving none the less. You could easily imagine a prodigal son returning to the small town of his child hood in the flat lands of the West Texas where nothing much has changed.. That's where it began -- West Texas and the fertile grounds of Lubbock where, by happy coincidence, a motley crew gathered in the early 1970's to found a new kind of country music."

Yet another sad passing. Not that much has changed...

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For more of our stories and memories search this blog; explore the Joe Ely Youtube Channel.

Monday, November 24, 2025

Playa del Carmen

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Kate and I left the cold and snow of November for the sun and beaches of Playa del Carmen on the Mayan Riviera. We flew Air Transat, the holiday package was through them, out of Toronto on the Monday afternoon of November 10 to Cancun where we were shuttled down the coast about an hour or so to our all-inclusive resort, the Reef Coco Beach, very near the heart of town Playa del Carmen. We were there for a two week vacation and returned on November 14.

If you're brave enough to venture into the photo album at left you may be bored with too many sunrise/sunset photos like that shown. Every morning I was up to catch the sunrise; likewise every evening for sunset.

Our intention was to find a comfortable place where it would be warm and we could do a bit of snorkeling, swimming and have a fast internet so we could work on our photos and this blog. We're not resort types, we'd much rather visit an interesting city (like Austin) or a country like Australia, but have been to resorts like this before. When my brother Paul lived in Halifax (he's in Thailand now) we used to meet up with him and Judy for a week in the winter at a Caribbean all-inclusive resort (e.g., see Cuba (2005) and Mexico (2006)). That worked well then, we would visit and explore a bit together.

This resort is in, or at least very close to, the city of Playa del Carmen. The resort is on the beach with the city right behind us. To the north there's a large public beach, Playa Coco Beach, with some fenced off rough bush land (probably soon to be developed as yet another resort). To the south it's miles and miles of resorts right on the beach. The beach at our resort is somewhat protected by a nearby reef that we had hoped to swim to. Unfortunately many, many fishing and diving boats use that reef as a shelter — it's a bit of a busy harbor or anchorage for the many boats in the area. This meant swimming out through the boats would be dangerous at best (cf. Kirsty MacCall and her death at Cozumel). And, while most days were calm in the morning, the wind would regularly pick up which made for choppy waters. We often noted sailboarding and kitesurfing on the large area to the north of us.

With respect to the beach, to add insult to injury the resort has a fenced off swimming area to keep those boats away. The water quality within this fenced off area was awful with plastics, wipes and other crap floating about. And to add insult to that injury the beach, when we arrived, was awash in heaps and heaps of sargassum (a prolific seaweed and a problem throughout the Caribbean).  To give the town and resort credit there were staff and machinery out every day to clean up the seaweed. I had thought their battle was a lot like the myth of Sisyphus; I am surprised at how effective they were!

All of the above means we didn't swim much in the ocean. Every day we'd go down to the dive shop and ask about snorkeling. They were always sending out scuba divers and they always promised us that they would send us out tomorrow, another day when it's not so windy, the weekend looks better, etc. That never happened. We did end up going out on a short catamaran tour out of a resort some distance to the north of us at Playa Maroma. Oddly, they wouldn't let me take any pictures with "that camera" although they were keen to sell us pictures they had taken. Oh yes, and I couldn't get my go-Pro wanna be under water camera to work. Sheeet!

We paid extra for better seats on Air Transat to accommodate Kate's mobility problems. The seats had a bit more room and were a little less crowded; but only a little. On long flights, like to Europe in June, we pay for business class seats and Kate insists on lay flat sleeping pods for overnight trips. Part of this trip was to see how Kate might fair on a daytime flight to this part of the world — we're thinking of a long stay trip to Central America this winter. Kate survived (obviously) but it was not easy for her.

We arrived very late in the evening of November 10; I recall it was around 10:30 or 11:00 at night. Kate was in considerable pain having been up and about for 12 hours. The shuttle, which we were told would drop us off first, drove through Playa del Carmen to the very large gated community of Playacar on the south end of the city before returning us, the last passengers, to our hotel on the north end of the city. This was a needlessly long an bumpy ride through the rough streets of Playa del Carmen and resort lanes of Playacar.

We were given a room with two single beds on the top floor above the hotel reception as far as possible from the ocean. This was not the partial ocean view room we had bargained on and paid extra for. We were not happy and there was no other room for us at that time of the day. It might have been worse, we met a couple who spent their first night at another Reef Resort (actually a hotel) in the city center. The next day we meet up with a resort Hospitality Manager/Liason, Yullianna, who appreciated our problem and helped sort things out. She found us lolling on the beach and took us to a much nicer room, with a king bed, close to the shore, a very good partial ocean view, and overlooking the pool. We were moved to this room after it was vacated and tidied up that afternoon.

That's when we discovered the very loud music system designed to entertain, motivate and exercise guests around the pool. Why does the music have to be so feckin' loud! "ARE WE HAVING FUN YET!" "Well I'd be having more fun if I didn't have to yell to be heard!". I don't think we're crabby old geezers and I don't think your having fun with LOUD MUSIC should impede on my quiet relaxation. We met a regular who had an ocean view (to avoid the loud music at the pool) and he tells us he and is wife have a running battle over the loud music. They even circulated a petition and have posted nasty reviews in hopes of getting the noise abated if only a little.

Here's an odd thing about the noise. Next door is an exclusive restaurant/pool area that's part of our resort. You need to pay an extra $30US per day, per person to go there. During the day it is a quiet oasis with it's own pool overlooking the ocean. At night, even there, they crank up the music. God knows where you go to escape the noise.

On hotel rooms, apart from the very large ocean view apartments, which cost a lot (well outside our reach) I really don't think there's much of a difference. There's about 300 rooms, all inward facing, where there's a largish pool, the building is in a U-shape, mostly 3 stories, with the open end to the beach. At the one end there's a garden area (taken up mostly by an unused min-golf), then there's the pool with the swim up bar, and at the beach end another pool that's a bit deeper. In the deeper pool (it's only maybe 5' deep) they do some scuba training in the morning; the rest of the day it's exercises, water polo and dumb games.

The resort has a buffet restaurant (for all meals) across the pool from us, a quick stop hamburger and chips kind of stand by the shallow pool, and three "restaurants" upstairs on the second floor above the buffet where you make a "reservation for dinner". They are Italian, Mexican and Japanese themed. We tried all three and liked the Italian restaurant the best (we had dinner there 3 times). 

There is an odd funny story about the Japanese restaurant. This is one of those affairs where they cook in front of you on a large flat grill (I think it's called a Teppanyaki) and juggle their knives, spatulas, food, etc. We had been to one before, many years ago, in London with Jack and Doreta. Anyway, the night we were there the chef is doing his shtick (with lots of flames and odd sexually suggestive food arrangements) when one of the servers announces that it's the chef's birthday today. The server leads us in song, "Happy birthday to you!". I even add in a second verse, and got a few laughs:

May you live a thousand years
May you drink a thousand beers
Get plastered, you b...ad boy
Happy birthday to you!

Anyways, a few nights later we're at the Italian restaurant (they all share a kitchen and washroom area) and what do I hear people singing, next door, in the Japanese restaurant? Why they're singing "Happy birthday to you!" What an odd coincidence; odd that the same chef should have two birthdays! Does he have one every night?

When you arrive one of the things "The Reef" (ie. the resort company) wants you to do is sit for a morning sales pitch where they try to sell you on investing in a long stay — here or at another development (they have three and might be working on another). One of the rewards for doing so was a fancy dinner set by the seaside. We declined both. Although we did meet a Canadian who had invested in 60 weeks at this resort which he's been spreading out over several years. He gets an ocean view room that faces the ocean, just down the hall from ours, that avoids the noise and music around the pool. I don't think I'd like to come to the same resort every time; especially this one.

The food at the buffet was fine (never quite hot enough for me) and the staff were friendly. We'd often meet up with a server, Deyadira, at breakfast, she'd serve us coffee and would always joke with us asking if we wanted tequila with our breakfast. We'd decline but promised her that on our last day we'd try a "Tequila Sunrise" and we did. We got talking to her a bit; she tells us she works every day (I guess resorts jobs are pretty good in the pecking order) and is early in a pregnancy. We congratulate her and wish her well. Kate was talking to one of the young chefs at breakfast who was making omelettes. She tells us she's on an internship, is grateful to be there, and doesn't get paid at all!

On the pay issue, although I suppose resort staff are paid well by Mexican standards, I rather doubt it's paid well by our standards. We were encouraged by friends to bring some cash with us and tip the servers. This we did regularly, at meals, at the bar, taxis and for the domestic who cleans our room. We saw that others did the same (not a lot, but some). We had quite a bit of Mexican cash with us in fairly large denominations. We found it impossible to get bills changed. At the front desk the smallest bill they ever had was $500MX; we were aiming to drop $50MX here and there as a tip but found it difficult.

But people don't come to all-inclusive resorts for the food. We came for the drinks. There was a small bar with a quiet sitting area at reception, another swim up bar at the pool, a bar at the buffet restaurant and, by the dive shop, a small bar that opened in the evening — we called that one the "Dive Bar". We were regulars at the pool bar; Kate devoted to pina-coladas (more dark rum please) and Reg toyed with various Margaritas (blended, on ice, less sweet, no salt, even straight tequila with a slice of lime, and sorry we don't have any Mezcal).  With our meals we'd usually drink their house white — a Spanish plonk a bit more drinkable than their house red.

Most days we'd loll around the pool, drinks in hand, maybe trying to work on the computer, until the entertainment came out and the pounding disco drove us away to the deck by the sea at the "Dive Bar" where we'd play Mexican Train. That's a simple tile/dominos game we brought with us; our friend Joan introduced us to the game years ago. It's fun, requires some thought, but the winner is often by luck. One day a guest walking by enviously asked if we had got the game at the resort. "Sorry no, we brought it."

Working on our laptops, tablets, etc. to sort photos and write in this blog was difficult. The screens just aren't bright enough when sitting outside. Our balcony might have been nice but then there was the loud "music" that would drive you away. And who wants to work inside?

There were a couple of parties around the pool at night. One night there was a staged show with fireworks, another night there was a wedding party. That was a small group but they were keen to party hard.

In other posts I talk about the Street Art work I found and our visit to a local Frida Kahlo museum/gallery. There's also a 3D-Museum of Wonders that we went to see downtown. We had been to one in Chaing Mai Thailand a few years ago and thought it might be fun. Unfortunately the entry fee was very expensive, way out of line, and we declined. We had a nice lunch at a nearby restaurant.

From the beach you can see large cruise ships and the resorts on Cozumel; a large island in the distance that shelters Playa del Carmen. In the evening the glow from the lights on the island lights the sky. At first I thought the large structures on the horizon where mountains on Cozumel. It turns out they were the massive, mountainous cruise boats.

We took a taxi to the Cozumel ferry terminal about 3km down the beach from our resort. One morning I had walked about half way there to the Muelle Constituyentes pier. The ferry terminal is a bigger deal by far with many high speed boats dashing back and forth. There's a park area, Parque Los Fundadores, with entertainers and lots of shops, and lots of lots of hawkers. We rode over to Cozumel, pooped around for a while, and didn't see much of the island. Apparently there's very good snorkeling around the island. We met an English couple (newly wed and Jehovah Witness) at the Japanese restaurant who had done a day long catamaran tour that stopped at 4 different snorkeling spots on the island. We might have liked that but couldn't see us lasting the day.

Years ago, in 2006, we had been to a much larger resort way out from any town, the Bahia Principe Luxury Akumal, which is closer to Tulum (see Mexico February, 2006). We had taken this resort because it was smaller and in the town. Because it was small you were not able to get away from the hub-bub. We avoided a large resort so we wouldn't have to walk great distances to restaurants and events at the resort (for the Bahia Principe we brought our folding travel bikes so Kate could get around).

Street Art

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Playa del Carmen is an odd city with some beautiful modern buildings but there are also some terribly crappy areas. Some of each are found on our resort's doorstep.

I'm a fan of street art and there is an abundance around the city. While we didn't leave our resort very often I did get out a few times and captured some of the street art. Some of it is political, much of it is very well done, very little of it is the ugly tagging graffiti you sometimes see elsewhere.

While not "art" the store front for "My Fucking Restaurant" is one of the oddest I have ever encountered. 

I really like the devilish creature pictured at left.


Friday, November 21, 2025

Greetings from Canada

While basking in the sun we remember that all is not well in this world. I write to our friend Igor in Kharkiv:

"Greetings from Kate and Reg. We hope this finds you. (sic!)

We haven't written in some time but you're often in our thoughts. As winter settles in Canada and Ukraine this is yet another tough season ahead for you and the war in UA. Today we're escaping the cold in sunny Mexico but return to Canada soon for the Christmas season. You cannot so easily escape the hardships of winter and war.

We see that Russia continues their daily barrage against the civilian population and energy infrastructure throughout UA. I hope you are safe and doing well in spite of all that and can be comfortable this winter.

We are pleased to see long range strikes into Russia with locally developed drone technologies. Congratulations there. We see EU members continue and escalate their support with aircraft, missile defence, access to frozen Russia assets and more. Much more should be done to support UA and end this war.

Trump, the Lyin' King, continues as an embarrassment to the free world, a fickle friend to NATO and UA, and an obvious Putin Puppet. Recent US "peace" plans seem to be, yet again, a capitulation to Russia that cannot be supported.

War can easily end; all it takes is for Russia to leave!

For many years now we have escaped winter for a month or so in Texas. Not so this year.  We have sworn never to return to the US until fascism is defeated and sanity returns. That will be a long time, but we are hopeful.

I must go now. We pray for a UA victory, a unification with the EU and NATO, a rightful just peace in our time.

Stay strong, you have friends even in the darkest hour. As Churchill said early in WW II, “This is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning.”

Slava Ukraine!
Heroyam Slava!

Next summer, or a summer soon enough, I hope we can share a drink together on the sunny beaches of UA Crimea.

XO K&R"

And a few hours later Igor replies:

"Dear Kate and Reg!

Your thoughtful and empathyc messages always lift my spirits.
It's always nice to feel the support of friends.
This winter in Ukraine will be truly difficult.
The gas supply is working without interruptions, so my house is warm. But the electricity is intermittent for six hours, twice a day. So, I bought a gasoline generator. Along with the electricity, the water supply is also cut off.
But Ukrainians are a resilient and resourceful people! Today, I built a makeshift water tower in the attic of my house :)
I'm sure we will overcome all difficulties and prevail!
And then, of course, we'll meet in Ukrainian Crimea :)

Best wishes,
Igor"

We are so pleased that we can still connect, he's still there: alive and kicking. I reply 

"So glad our message found you. We can't imagine the hardships your compatriots are experiencing. It's like some bad movie.

We hope for and believe in better days.

Until next time. 

Your faithful feckless friends from Canada"

And Igor signs off a smile :)

Thursday, November 13, 2025

Frida Kahlo

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Kate has discovered that there's a Frida Kahlo gallery/museum in Playa del Carmen (see Museo Frida Kahlo Riviera Maya on Facebook). It's an opportunity for us to get out of the resort, see some art and some of the city. We have a taxi pick us up and drive us near the museum about 20 minutes away near the city center. 

Taxi rides run $200MX for most destinations in the city; that's about $16CA, but we usually just divide by 10 to figure out the exchange. 

There's a modest entry fee and we are given a conducted tour with a young woman who tells us the story of Frida Kahlo's life on display in series of exhibits. I knew a little bit, that she had lived her life in pain, but it turns out I knew very little. She had childhood polio which crippled her one side and as a young woman nearly died in a tram crash that crushed her spine. Throughout her life she had many surgeries and many cumbersome braces to "fix" these problems. But nothing ever worked, she lived a life of pain.

This is more a museum than a gallery. There are no original works of hers but several digital copies on display. I understand that she only painted 150-200 pieces in her life; that's not a lot for an artist of her renown. But like many artists her fame is largely posthumous. One of the recreations in the museum was a physical replica of her bed (cf. pictured above which broke records in a recent auction):

An arresting self-portrait by Frida Kahlo, featuring the artist slumbering beneath a tangle of vines in a carved canopy bed with a skeleton reclining above her, set records at a Sotheby's auction on Thursday night in New York. The 1940 painting, called El sueño (La cama), sold for $54.7 million, the most expensive artwork by a woman ever auctioned. It also broke the previous auction record for Kahlo's work. — See NPR article 2024/11/19.

The tour guide, noting Kate's mobility issues, finds a wheel chair for us and leads us through the museum. There aren't a lot of patrons today. We learn of her birth, her family, her childhood, travels to the US and Europe, and much more. For much of her life, because of the polio and tram injuries, she painted from her bed as in the picture above. That explains why many of her works are pictures of herself; she was painting from a mirror hanging over her. Her uni-brow is a well known feature of these paintings. She was adamantly proud of who she was and how she looked.

She had an interesting, eventful life, nonetheless. She married the same man twice, Diego Rivera (an likewise famous artist), had several lovers, she was bisexual, a communist (there's a connection to Trotsky), and an advocate for Mexican traditions in art (like the day of the dead folk art) and dress.

One of the exhibits was a day of the dead altar; we've seen these in Austin. On the altar are several offerings, Mezcal and Tequila, and several large skulls. We are told by the guide that one of Frida's favorite candies was the "Day of Dead" sugar skulls. There's a picture of her holding a life size candy skull. Our guide gave us a couple of small candy skulls as souvenirs of the museum.

Frida Kahlo died in 1954 at 47years of age after a lifetime of pain. Apparently her last recorded words were written in her diary shortly before her death: "I joyfully await the exit — and I hope never to return". I also have read of an other equality poignant ending, 

Shortly before her death, Frida said: "When I die, burn my body. I don't want to be buried. I spent a lot of time lying down. Just burn it!" On July 13, 1954, the rain said goodbye to Frida Kahlo, who for her funeral had been dressed in a typical Mexican and with her right hand resting on her chest. Her body was cremated and her ashes are kept in the Casa Azul in Coyoacán, the place where she was born. Her last painting is exhibited at the Frida Kahlo Museum. It is an oil painting that shows several pieces of watermelon in very bright tones. In one of them, and next to her signature, it reads: "Viva la vida. Coyoacán, 1954, México".    — See Handmade by Paola Pizzaferri on Facebook.

With the fuss about the auction, only a few days ahead, Noelle, our gifted artist niece, posted on Facebook one of her digital works commemorating Frida. I really like that work and have left a copy in the photo gallery above.

P.s. this Museum/Gallery in Play del Carmen should not be confused with the Museo Frida Kahlo in Coyoacán, where Frida was born, lived and died, which is a much larger proper gallery with original artworks.  Nevertheless, I'd recommend visiting this museum when in Playa del Carmen.

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

Hayes Carll

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Kate and I went to Toronto on Tuesday to see Hayes Carll and his Gulf Coast Orchestra (guitar/banjo, bass, percussion/drums, mandolin/violin, and keyboards) at the Horseshoe Tavern. He's touring to support a new album, "We're Only Human" (2025) but the show dives deep into his catalogue. We were there only recently to see James McMurtry with Gord and Leslie. In Austin, Hayes Carll is considered by many to be the next best thing since sliced bread — although I believe he lives in Nashville these days (sort of like Guy Clark who was famous in Texas but lived and worked from Nashville). I understand that Hayes Carll is married to Allison Moorer (see "That's the Way Love Goes"), another singer in her own right, whom he "stole" from Steve Earle. If you like Americana you should know of him.

We've seen him live a couple of times in Austin but only at award shows and that sort of thing — we've never been anywhere where we could catch a whole concert. In Austin he plays large halls. He sold out the Horseshoe in Toronto, standing room only, perhaps 300-400 patrons. He has fans here and could probably sell small concert halls in Toronto (which would be nicer for us).

We booked an overnight room at the Chelsea Hotel (Yonge and Gerrard). As it happens it was the cheapest and we have lots of fond memories from staying there over the years. The intention was to arrive early in the day and enjoy a bit of R&R; especially at the pool. But then our next door neighbour's dad, Bill Armstrong, had died and the funeral mass was that very afternoon. Bill was the father to Dianne (of Dianne and Chico), Gloria (of Gloria and Al) and Danny (of Dan and Wendy) and we had spent lots of Christmas Eve's with all of them, next door making music, drinking and chatting. We knew and liked Bill and his extended family — so we couldn't miss the funeral mass. That made us pretty late leaving for Toronto; but it still seemed workable. So we went to the funeral but skipped the internment and reception afterwards and instead headed out for Toronto.

Our plan was to get to the hotel by 6:00 and check in. Reg would immediately take an Uber or cab to the Horseshoe and stand in line to make sure we got good seats, and Kate would lie around resting until the show was ready to start. She hadn't decided whether to go for the fronting act, Aaron Raitiere, or just go for Hayes Carll. The traffic was awful, we ran into a parade (National Day for Truth and Reconciliation), and it was looking like we wouldn't get to the hotel until 6:30 or later so we decided to park the car near the Horseshoe, and Kate would take an Uber to the hotel and come back later. Reg would have to watch his drinking since he would need to drive back to the hotel later. Kate had a nice Uber driver from India; Reg arrived at the Horseshoe at 6:30 and met some nice people early in line and of a like mind. He was, like, 4th or 5th in the general admission line. Good plan — doors open at 7:00, show starts at 8:00 with Hayes Carll on around 9:00.

However, when Reg got in, there were no seats, absolutely none. It was standing room only. The best he could do was get a standing spot at stage left by the speakers. It seems they sell VIP tickets, which gives early admission, and they sold so many of these that the VIP's took all of the seats. We could have bought VIP tickets but we weren't particularly interesting in the various perks — there was no mention about seating. So we texted back and forth but in the end, we couldn't figure out how it could work for Kate to go at all. For one thing, for her to get in, Reg would have to lose his spot by the stage in order to meet her at the entrance with the cell phone app that would get her in. Plus, Kate, with her ankle injury, couldn't stand for that long. So she missed the show entirely. Reg stayed and enjoyed the music very much — both acts — but came home with every part of his body aching from the prolonged standing. Plus, he could only have one beer while there, the one he bought while in line, because if he left to get a beer, he'd lose his spot. But being up front he got some good pictures and really enjoyed the music. He took notes of the songs performed and some of the chatter that form the basis of the following.

Opening Act: Aaron Raitiere


The opening act at 8:00 was Aaron Raitiere, who hails from Danville KY, see his YouTube Channel. He was quite the hit coming up on stage and immediately grabbing the audience's attention. He was wearing a "Turtle" green hockey shirt and started the show with a "Go Turtles" holler with the audience. It turns out he didn't bring any "merch" to sell so offered to auction off his Turtle shirt to the highest bidder over $200 (is that Canadian or US dollars?). Hayes told a story later about another time time when Aaron toured with him without bringing any merch; instead he did sketches of Hayes with titles like "Music Righter" and did quite well selling these — Aaron did better than him!


Aaron is an interesting multi-talented performer/artist and has quite a few co-writes (including with Hayes). Hayes tells us that at the 2025 CMA awards (coming up November 19), of the songs nominated for "Song of the Year", Aaron has co-writing credits on 2 of the 4 songs: “4x4xU” (Jon Decious, Aaron Raitiere, Lainey Wilson) and “You Look like You Love Me” (Riley Green, Ella Langley, Aaron Raitiere).
  • There were a lot of jokes and some very brief one-liner humorous songs. One line I've written down was "I'm so miserable without you, it's just like you're here" and that seems to be from a 1992 song by Billy Ray Cyrus.
  • Another drunken doped up story song is "Armadillo" (Aaron Raitiere, Jon Decious & Parker Twomey) from Miranda Lambert's album "Postcards from Texas" (2024). The premise of the song is telling a tall tale to your partner when you've arrived home late, stoned and drunk. The excuse is "Met an armadillo with a gun, that's where I was last night".
  • Aaron is quite self deprecating and describes his schtick as singing "Songs about boogers and such". There's a song about ADHD and being OCD (he likes these acronyms). See "ADHD Hypomanic Alcoholic Son of a Bitch" (by Frank South, Aaron Raitiere, Colin Raitiere circa 2012) on YouTube.
  • This ties to a song about "Cold Soup" from the album "Single Wide Dreamer" (2022) that tells the story of the homeless; perhaps those with ADHD or OCD?
  • "You're Crazy" from the same album has the notable lines "And I don't know what else to call it, baby, you're crazy. 'Cause if you had any sense you'd a left him by now".
  • "Dear Darlin'" is a breakup letter from the same album. Things are not going well; the notable line is "Cussin' you in cursive, hope this letter makes you cry".
  • Kate had found a Youtube video of "Single wide dreamer" from that album. Notable lines include: "Single wide dreamer in a double wide world" and "He works extra hard to not work too hard". The video is cartoonish.
  • Someone in the audience called out for "Jesus Jenny" (performed by Ashley McBryde & Aaron Raitiere, writers Aaron Raitiere & Jon Decious) from Ashley McBryde's concept album "Lindeville" (2022). There was a reference to the line "Titties popping out of your turtleneck" but he didn't do the song
  • Aaron did perform "Excuse me, you look like you love me" which I mentioned earlier. If you chase the link you'll be taken to a 2024 version with Shelley Fairchild. It's a silly story about bars, gals, guys and closing time pickup lines .. that don't work (at least for guys it doesn't work). The song has been recorded by several artists.
  • Aaron refers to Uber, the ride share system, as Hubert, my dog. He played for a little over half an hour and was quite a treat. A lot on the gallows side of humor but well worth a listen.

I'd encourage you to check out Aaron Raitiere (here's his YouTube Channel) there's lots to listen to. "Live at the Basement" (2021) is a good sample of what I saw. If you like a mashup of John Prine, Kinky Friedman and Shel Silverstein he's your guy!

Headline: Hayes Carll and the Gulf Coast Orchestra


After a short break Hayes Carll and the Gulf Coast Orchestra came on stage at around 9:00. The touring band is: Thayer Sarrano on keyboards, Mike Meadows on drums/percussion, Noah Jeffries on fiddle/mandolin, Scott Davis on guitar/banjo, and Jared Reynolds on bass. I didn't catch where all the members were from. His colleague on electric guitar (and banjo) was a high school classmate from back in Houston. The bass player was from Nashville, I think the drummer was from Austin, there was a fellow on mandolin and violin, and a young woman on keyboards who was from Nashville.

  • The electric set starts with "Drunken Poet's Dream" from "Trouble in Mind" (2007). I think that's a cowrite with Ray Wylie Hubbard. Lots of notable lines, but I like: "Well, she laughs for a minute 'bout the shape I'm in. Says, "You be the sinner, honey, I'll be the sin".
  • "Faulkner Street" from "Trouble in Mind" (2007) is a tune I'm not familiar with. It's a fond remembrance of his drunken early times. The chorus is: "Trouble in mind. How'd we ever lose that time? Livin' for the best. Leavin' all the rest behind".
  • "What I Will Be" from "We're Only Human" (2025) is a turn around from those drunken days and talks about living a quiet life by the ocean. Notable lines: "I am what I am. An insecure mountain. Long-winded fountain of useless advice" and "From now until the end; I'm gonna be what I will be."
  • "You get it all" from "You Get It All" (2021) is a love song, a ballad, that he often sings solo on guitar. Tonight he did it with the full band. Still a lovely song.
  • "If I May Be So Bold" from "What It Is" (2019) is a Highway 61 tinged rocker. I'm not sure what it's about. The chorus includes "There's a whole world out there waitin'; Full of stories to be told; And I'll heed the call and tell 'em all; If I may be so bold".
  • "Any Other Way" from "You Get It All" (2021) is another cowrite with Aaron Raitiere. Features violin and reaches back to classic country. I like the lines of the chorus "There ain't nobody; Who knows how life's gonna happen; Only thing to do is live it 'til it's gone". Hayes tells us about Aaron's CMA nominations and the merch stories.
  • "High" from "We're Only Human" (2025) is a a slow one; likely about enjoying the moment with some libations or drugs. But it's also about being content and comfortable with where he is now in life.
  • "Progress of Man (Bitcoin & Cattle)" from "We're Only Human" (2025) is a co-write with Aaron Raitiere. A great word play with some biting commentary: "The world's gettin' turned on by assholes and racists. And it's all for the progress of man". The title reminds me of a Townes Van Zandt song, "For the sake of the song" but only in the title.
  • "Stay Here Awhile" from "We're Only Human" (2025) , another slow one, was introduced with a story about being comfortable in life in Tennessee and watching a blue jay building a nest out the window (the Toronto Blue Jays had just recently won their division title and that got an audience response). "Let me be that blue jay, Knowing I belong. And no matter what lies on the road up ahead; May I always have my song".
  • They did a rockin' version of "I Don't Wanna Grow Up" (a Tom Waits song made famous by the Ramones) which appeared, as a much more gentle tune, on "Trouble in Mind" (2007).
  • "Down the Road Tonight" from the album "Little Rock" (2005) is another Dylan/Highway 61 spoken word mouthful telling the story of wild times on the road. The line that stuck out to me was "My first girlfriend works at Hooters". I'm not familiar with this album, it's not on Youtube, but gosh, it's 20 years ago!
  • "I Got Away With It" is a slow one from "We're Only Human" (2025) that tells the story of a broken relationship where he's at fault. "And I acted like some kind of stranger. When she desperately needed a friend". He may have got away with it but lives with regret.
  • Hayes was talking about Fred Eagle Smith, how he had helped him out when he was touring in Texa. He mentioned Roger Marin and Darcy Yates who where both here tonight. He talked about a cross country tour of Canada where gigs where missed, and long days spent travelling to the next gig. Someone from the audience called out for "Bible on the Dash" (2012) with Corb Lund. Another funny tune spearing Christians. He didn't do it tonight. He told a story about touring in Canada and the border hassles — inadvertently they were caught with an orange on returning to the US. They were fined and crossing borders thereafter meant he'd be stopped and searched. Border services in the US (ICE and CBP) have been arseholes for a long time.
  • "I got a gig", from the album from "Trouble in Mind" (2007), tells the story of his young days starting out at Hurricane Bob's on Crystal Beach Texas where getting a gig was an accomplishment. There's a banjo prominent in this tune with his friend from Houston, his electric guitarist.
  • "What it is", from the album of the same name (2019), is one of those songs of regret and hope for the future. The chorus includes: "And what it is is right here in front of me. And I'm not letting go".
  • "Good People (Thank Me)" is another co-write with Aaron Raitiere from "We're Only Human" (2025) . It's become a popular sing along with a simple story and easy chorus: "Thank God for good people, thank people for being kind". We were all encouraged to sing along (unlike the encore).
  • "KMAG YOYO" from "KMAG YOYO (& Other American Stories)" (2011) is a rocker with Dylan like spoken lyrics (cf. "Johnny's in the basement, mixing up the medicine, I'm on the pavement, thinking about the government") that tells the story of a young fellow who signs up and ends up in Afghanistan ... selling heroin and going down some strange paths with the CIA. The acronym KMAG YOYO is "Kiss my ass good-bye; you're on your own."
  • "To Keep From Being Found" from "You Get It All" (2021) is another nice tune I hadn't really listened to before. It's another sad story about the hard life touring and travelling and loves lost. A line that leaps out to me was "I ain't ever going back to Texas. I'll pay the cost, Of being lost, Just to keep from being found".
  • "Nice Things" from the album "You Get It All" (2021) is funny commentary on our world — God comes down to earth and she meets all sorts of dumb things we do: pollution, drugs and a hypocrisy.
  • "One Day" from "We're Only Human" (2025) is a quieter tune with a hopeful. "One day I'm gonna get there. right where I belong."
  • The set ended with "We're Only Human" (2025) from the album by the same name. This is another quiet reflective tune, a little sad -- "We're only human, nothing more".
  • For the encore, Hayes came on solo, without the band, just his guitar, to sing "Beaumont" from "Trouble in Mind" (2007). A lovely rueful story of a failed romance "I could not wait forever, I hope you understand". A couple of guys behind me seemed to love and know the song by heart; they sang along ... loudly. I wished they had just sung quietly for themselves.
  • The encore ended with the band returning. They did a couple of rockers, "Hard Out Here" and "Stomp and Holler" both from the album "KMAG YOYO (& Other American Stories)" (2011). Both songs about touring and living on the road.
We have been listening to Hayes Carll for several years now. This show impressed me with the depth of his catalogue and the quality of his song writing. If you like a bit of John Prine, mixed with a large dash of Highway 61 Dylan, lots of blues and Ray Wylie Hubbard then Hayes Carll should be on your must-listen list. Here's his YouTube Channel.

Friday, September 26, 2025

Lynn River Farm

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Last evening (Thursday) the local Beefsteak and Burgundy wine club (St Marys Stonetown #227) held an evening members and guests dinner event outside at Lynn River Farm. The location is slightly north and east of Stratford not too far from Shakespeare. A big yellow school bus had been chartered to get us safely there and back  as we don't want any DUI drivers. There were a little less than 20 of us; we would have liked to have a few more.

There had been a similar event here last year. I'm not sure how/why I missed that one. In any case, although the weather leading up to the event had been cool, it was a lovely warm night for us (last year it had been quite cool). We ate outside under a tent overlooking a pond (actually a gravel pit that had filled in with water). There was a small sail boat docked on the water. There's some livestock wandering about, including some geese, and some turkeys penned up/fenced in. It's a well tended rural environment that handles special events. It's advertised as a "Countryside Dining Experience".

As the evening progressed we saw a hot air balloon pass by in the distance and enjoyed a clear night with a lovely orange sunset. 

We had a lovely 4 course dinner prepared on site with locally grown ingredients. Each course had a matching wine our wine steward for the club (Jere) had selected. For the main course, a lasagna pasta, a red wine was served blind and the game was to determine what the wine was, what it cost, etc. Tom had select the wine which turned out to be a reasonably priced Chianti Classico Reserva by Melini which matched well with the pasta. I guessed that it was a Sangiovese, didn't catch that it was a Reserva, and therefore missed out on the price point. The winner of the game is tagged to do the same at next years event — i.e., he would have to select a wine and speak to it next year.

For the dessert our president Claire had selected a brandy that he thought was particularly tasty and a good value. I'm not usually a brandy drinker, but he was right on both counts.

One of the very nice things about the location and the evening was the ability to have a conversation not only with your immediate neighbors but also with chums across the table and further away. Many times restaurants are far too noisy to be able to have a conversation — flat walls echo noise, music is cranked up, etc. Outside at the farm conversation flowed easily.

With Jere's help here's the menu and wine pairings we had that night
  • We started with a Burrata Board served with dry Tawse Sparkling Riesling (Vintage 370361): homemade sourdough and focaccia; whipped herb butter; fresh burrata with hot honey; fresh tomatoes and ground cherries from the garden with balsamic carrot top pesto.
  • Salad course was Roasted Honey & Lentil Salad served with VQA Burnt Ship Bay Sauvignon Blanc (LCBO 517185)
  • Entree course was a Sausage & Beef Lasagna, home made pasta, on a alfredo and pesto sauce. Served (blind) with the Melini Chianti Classico Reserva (as above) and an Antinori Pèppoli Chianti Classico (Vintages 606541)
  • Dessert course was a sticky toffee pudding with a homemade hone ice cream. Served with a brandy (as above)
I recall the Burnt Ship Bay being particularly impressive and good value. The meal was excellent with lots of locally sourced products. 

Many thanks to Lynn River Farm, Claire, Jere, Tom and others for organizing a great evening. I'll be back ...

Tuesday, September 16, 2025

James McMurty & Betty Soo

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Gord and Leslie came to visit us for some theatre (especially MacBeth at Stratford). We have arranged to meet with them in Toronto and went to see James McMurtry (with a band and fronted by BettySoo) at the Horseshoe Tavern on Queen near Spadina. Both James and BettySoo are artists we've seen many times on our winter stays in Austin TX (search this blog); we usually we see them as solo acts.

Gord and Leslie arrive by train from Ottawa, we drive from home with our car.

Tonight, on this tour, James is performing with a full band — electric guitar, bass and drums. BettySoo accompanies him on an accordion for a few songs as pictured! We had seen her this winter at the El Mercado Sunday Morning Purgatory Players gig and she said then that she was just starting out on the instrument. James we've seen many times as an early evening solo act at the Continental Club Gallery (Austin) where he has a long standing residency. He also plays late at night once a week downstairs at the Continental Club with a band — perhaps these guys he has tonight. Of course these residencies are interrupted when he's on tour. When in Austin we much prefer to see him as a solo act and early in the evening. We're not long ball hitters anymore.

Doors open at 7:00pm, BettySoo comes on around 8:00 and there's a break before James around 9:00. Kate misses seeing James, at the break I take her back to our AirBnB via Uber, and I miss perhaps the opening tune of James' set. The audience wasn't very attentive to BettySoo but were very attentive and supportive of James. Many times the audience would sing along! One neat trick James does here (and at the Continental Club) is to sing one song without any electric amplification. That quiets down thing; people stop yacking to listen closely to what he has to say.

James did songs from across his catalog (he's touring to support his latest album "The Black Dog and the Wandering Boy" (2025)) but can reach back through to his first "Too Long in the Wasteland" (1989). Of course he did Choctaw Bingo; a big hit. Given the times we are suffering through with the Lyin' King in Washington I'm surprised he didn't do at least some protest songs. But then he's not known for that ... well, there's We Can't Make It Here Anymore (2007) and Cheney's Toy (2008) but they are now quite dated.

I like seeing acts here and have over the many years seen some of our Americana heroes —  Jerry Jeff Walker, Billy Joe Shaver, Robert Earl Keen and Eric Bogle (Australian Folk). The setup is pretty good but there aren't many seats; Kate needs to sit down and get off her feet. There is a largeish "dance floor" in front of the stage but that's filled with a standing room crowd who block the view for those sitting down. We met our friends Tom and Tara from London who have grabbed themselves a spot right at the stage left. They were just  a few feet from the performers. Tom has posted some of his pictures to Facebook.

I got my pictures by wheedling my way through the crowd to the front. With a camera in hand people let you do that. Pretty much all my pictures were taken with a flash and bounce card. Someone in the audience seemed to think using a flash was forbidden. If it was nobody, other than her, said anything.

We stayed overnight at a two bedroom AirBnB condo near Bay and College. Gord, Leslie and I stayed up late after the show and at least one of us had a painful hangover the next day.

Next week we will return to see Hayes Carll at the Horseshoe — another TX Americana singer/song writer that we follow.

See also — on YouTube James McMurty and BettySoo.


Wednesday, August 27, 2025

45th Anniversary Party

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On August 2, 1980 Kate and I were married. In London, on the campus of the University of Western Ontario. This year marks our 45th anniversary. We had planned a celebration of on our 40th — we had a venue, guest list, music arranged, etc. when the COVID pandemic hit. So that party was cancelled.

This year we decided to have a bit of a party later in the month to celebrate with friends and family. The model would be a kitchen party, a Cèilidh, with some food, drink and some informal music. The pictures at left are a reminder of that event. I'll add some comments now and come back later to fill in a bit more.

The party was held on the afternoon of Sunday August 24 at the Riverwalk Commons here in St Marys. The Flour Mill catered the event and provided a server to help keep things organized. We got a liquor licence for a special event and provided the beer, wine and soft drinks. 

Our houseguests for the weekend were Alison (Maid of honour), Kate's brother, Gord (groomsman - Reg met Kate through Gord), and his wife, Leslie, from Ottawa, and our niece, Paula, from New Brunswick. They were amazing in helping to set up the venue in the morning: we moved tables around, made a memory table, put up some of our art pieces and photos. Our photo albums of the wedding, 20th and 25th anniversary parties seemed to interest many of our guests. One piece of art we hung and cherish was a wedding present painted by Barry Foster, a grad school/club colleague. The figures in the Egyptian styled painting include us and our cats at the time (Isis and Osiris). Unfortunately we've lost track of Barry. Wedding photos were taken by another colleague, Neil Farnsworth, who passed away in Hawaii several years ago. Photos from our 25th were by our No.1 son, Chris, and Paula was kind enough to take photos at this party (here's a camera, go nuts and take lots of pictures).

One thing we did not do was a slide show. The venue has a large screen and we were encouraged to show pictures. We both felt that would be too much like a funeral. And, people tend to get fixated on a TV. Instead we had a table of memorabilia: albums and clippings that Kate had prepared after past events.

Our friend Danny provided an anchor for the music. He was joined by Gord on bass and guitar, Rob on harp and guitar, Paul (our nephew) played along as well. Kate and I interrupted the music at several times to murder a ballad or three, with Kate playing her guitar. The picture above has Gord accompanying me on the Billy Joe Shaver song, "I couldn't be me without you". A simple song with heartfelt lyrics that I sang near the end of the event.

I couldn't be me without you
Together forever, where ever we are
I couldn't be me without you

We were thrilled that some of our friends and family from afar were able to celebrate with us. Joan (bridesmaid) and Ron drove from Belleville, Leo (classmate with Gord and Reg) and Glennice drove in from Peterborough area and visited with us the Saturday night. My best man, Mike, and his wife Jacquie, from Owen Sound, had hoped to come but were unable to attend — Mike is recovering from a fall where he broke both feet. Peter and Colleen, my workmates from Western University years, came down from Ottawa and stayed in the area for a few days taking in a few plays in Stratford. My brother,  David and wife, Gail, and their two daughters (our nieces), Bridget and Alison came from Hamilton area with their families (Bridget's husband, Jean Paul and son Quinton) and Alison's daughter, Kara. Another niece, Noelle, came from Toronto with her husband, Paul (who also joined in in the guitar playing), daughter, Grier and her partner, Lorne. Kate's nephew, Mark, and wife, Donna, came to the event from the Guelph area.  

We were pleased that some London friends came, including Andy (Western, Computer Science) and Patricia, Peter and his partner Angela. Sam (Kate's long-time colleague and friend from ARF/CAMH) and Albie made a special early return from holidays in the north just to be with us, and Sarah (CEO of the St. Marys library) and Joe made a special trip out from the city just to share this day with us.

We were also pleased to entertain friends from St Marys and area: Heather & Mark, Gary & Cathy, John & Joan, Gretchen, Jan & Bill, Jan, Tracey & Darrel, Janis & Doug, Jane & Bruce, Steve, Nancy, Sylvia & Rob, Ena & Dennis, Jenn &Tim, Dave, Roger & Barbara, Dorothy & Peter ... no doubt I've missed a few.

If you wander through the photos you'll get a sense of the party. It was intentionally an informal event — there were no fancy outfits and no speeches. There were over 60 guests who came over the several hours. It was quite busy there for a bit. We tried to greet everyone but were unable to have any lengthy conversations (e.g., it was only later in the week that we realized the Peter and Colleen were having their 20th wedding anniversary!). Danny kept the music coming with help from Rob and Gord. As mentioned, Kate and I interrupted a few times to sing some songs we had "rehearsed".

I love music but can barely carry a tune. We interrupted Danny and I opened with "Wilder Than Her", the Fred Eaglesmith tune I had sung for Kate at our 25th (Chris helped that time, Gord helped this time). Kate and Paula were laughing as I seemed to invent my own melody. Sorry about that!

Together we sang/butchered "Marilyn & Joe", the Kinky Friedman song. I recall singing this acapella at Peter and Colleen's wedding — they had no recollection of the event (nor does Kate). That would have been a good time to also recall that it was their anniversary coming up!

We sang/butchered "San Antone Rose" (Susanna Clark), and "In Spite of Ourselves" (John Prine). Fortunately Danny, who we had shared our song selections, led us on "45 Years From Now" (Stan Rogers). I closed with "I Couldn't Be Me Without You" (Billy Joe Shaver) and persuaded Gord and Leslie to do their version of "Once Every 100 Odd Years" (Silver Hearts). I wasn't able to persuade Paul and Lorne to play something (they're both able), or Sam, and we ought to have cornered Paula to play a tune or two. She does an excellent version of "Down Home Girl" by the Old Crow Medicine Show.

The party ended as planned around 4:00. We tidied up what had not been eaten (the caterer brought in a bunch of takeaway boxes -- they would have had to toss it all), we gave some away and took a lot home. We had seriously overestimated the drinks; probably by a factor of 10! I had opened a 5 litre Chianti (2017) and we had barely touched it. Back in our yard we closed the day eating leftovers and drinking up the Chianti with the gang staying with us and our neighbors Darrel and Tracey. We wouldn't want that wine to go bad, eh?

We are well stocked with food, drink and memories.

Gord and Leslie left on Monday morning dropping Paula off at Pearson Airport; Sam left on Tuesday flying out of London. Reg came down with a cold, he had been fighting it for a few days, and spent the day in bed.

It was a great day, a day to make memories. 

"It took me years, to get those souvenirs"

Saturday, August 2, 2025

45th Anniversary

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Saturday night, August 2, and the notorious '63 Monroe are playing at the Richmond Tavern in London with Limits of Approach. For those who might be keeping track, today is our 45th wedding anniversary, and we went to see '63 Monroe this night 45 years ago at the infamous Cedar Lounge (which, had it survived, was just a block away on the corner of King and Talbot). We had the band play for us at our 25th Anniversary and we simply must see them again tonight.

We're not long ball hitters anymore and worried that the band might not come on stage until midnight (bars are open to 2:00am these days). We're in communication with Peter, Markii and Scott. Scott tells us we're in luck as they're doing a first set at 9:00pm, followed by Limits of Approach, and then they do their last set close to midnight. So it's a go, we'll come and take in the first set.

We arrive in good time, I'm worried that the room might fill, but we get a good seat near the stage and have a parking spot right in front of the hotel. Peter visits with us for a bit and, as the band tunes up and does their sound check, we are centered out as the happy couple celebrating 45years who came to see them on their wedding night. They open with "At the Boot" which they dedicate to us. The Cedar Lounge was sometimes known as "The Boot".

It was a fun way to celebrate our anniversary. We ought to have stayed to the bitter end but would have paid dearly the next day. We met with several of the old gang (one of the pictures is by Olivia Rose Cairns — the daughter (sic!) of Debbie, a young friend from those days. She's off to Scotland shortly and we tell her a bit about our recent adventures in Glasgow.

Here's another summary. Kate writes to our friend Alison in Winnipeg (she was with us 45 years ago; Neil, our photographer has passed away):

It was great to see them (it was our 25th when they played for us). They did two sets with their first set at 9pm so we were able to see them and be home by 11! We didn't stay for the middle band although they were supposed to be pretty good. Pete got up before they started playing and pointed us out in the audience and talked about how we used to feed them and give them Reg's homemade beer (which was kind of him — I didn't think we fed them that often — but he was a kid — just 19 at the time). Scott even dedicated the first song to us ("At the boot"). I think they were quite chuffed to be reminded that we went to see them on our wedding night and that they are still playing 45 years later (to the day). They have done other shows but we felt that we had to go to this one. We've invited the three guys from the band that we know to our anniversary party.

The really sad thing for Reg was that he came home and immediately loaded the pictures onto his computer from his camera and as he was messing with them, he accidentally deleted them all. He spent hours trying to get the photos back but no luck. 

Most of the pictures in the photo album Kate took with her cell phone, some are cribbed from others (Amelia and Olivia) who posted on Facebook. I took a lot of pictures on my Canon t6i with a flash and I'm sure many would have been great. However, I managed to accidentally erase all them from my computer and could not recover any! Oh fur Dumb! I was up for hours trying to recover pictures from the memory card and from my computer to no avail. There's a moral here: don't erase memory card or computer copies until they are all safely in the cloud.

Kate asks if maybe I ought to have been shooting film?